Hey there, Sparklers 🙂
I just wanted to have a little chat to you about how it’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to have bad days. It’s okay to not want to get out of bed or to start crying for no reason. It’s okay.
As you all know, I suffer from anxiety and depression. So I’ll have a bad day quite often, but the most frustrating thing about it is that 90% of the time there’s no reason. Nothing that could “trigger” an episode. I spend the whole day thinking to myself “why do I feel like this? Nothing’s happened that could cause it” and then I end up feeling silly and pathetic. It’s hard to tell someone that you’re having a really bad day when there’s no reason for it. They don’t understand unless they’ve experienced it themselves. It’s frustrating, but it’s something I’ve had to become used to.
Everybody’s bad days are different. Some people just feel a little down in the dumps. Some are physically drained and can’t bring themselves to do anything that day. Some have a full blown meltdown. But whatever happens in your bad day, IT’S OKAY.
For me personally, when I have a bad day, it’s usually the complete meltdown type of bad day. I can’t sleep, I’m not hungry, I can’t bring myself to get out of bed and get dressed, all I want to do is sleep even though I can’t possibly doze off and EVERYTHING either gets me angry or makes me cry. I literally mean EVERYTHING. Sometimes this is just for a day, sometimes it goes on for a few days. It’s exhausting and upsetting, but the main thing you must remember is that it won’t last forever. Things will get back to normal. IT’S ONLY TEMPORARY.
The next day, the next week, the next month, whatever — you WILL be happy again. The way you felt during your bad day won’t matter anymore. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel, and every single person is strong enough to make it through all the bad times in their life, as hard as they may be. With every bad thing, a good thing follows. I like to think of it like, “if I make it through the bad times and come out stronger, I’ll enjoy the good times that follow twice as much.” That’s what keeps me going.
Nobody is alone, and nobody should ever FEEL alone. There’s always somebody to talk to who understands what you’re going through. Whether it’s a friend, family member, coworker, counsellor, etc.
Find what makes you happy and concentrate on it. I know first hand that it’s easier said than done, but when you’re having a bad day, try and take your mind off things. Watch something that makes you laugh, read a book, hang out with friends. Anything that helps you personally.
Blogging makes me happy, which is why I do it. But when I’m having a bad day, blogging about it isn’t always the best option for me. Sometimes it makes me feel worse instead of better. So I tend to watch YouTube videos that make me laugh, or that draw me in so much I’m only thinking about what’s happening in the video. Reading a book also helps me, because I’m so busy focusing on the words and visualising what’s happening in my head, I almost forget that I’m sad.
But at the end of the day, I want you to know that you can always talk to me. You’re my family and I have a large amount of love for you all. You can talk to me about anything, and I’ll listen and try to help as best as I can. Don’t hesitate to drop me a message on Instagram or Twitter. I’ll leave my links below, just in case 🙂
Thanks for reading. And remember, stay positive. Things will get better.
Lots of love,
Sarah Sparkles xxx